Archive for July, 2008|Monthly archive page

Same Sex Marriage-what does it matter to you?

Last week some friends visited me.  They brought their 11 year old child, who knew I was gay and just learned I was married.  Her parents asked her to congratulate us.  Then something odd happened.  This couple started to go on about the definition of marriage, explaining that marriage is a religious term.  They also went on to say that some churches who refuse to perform same-sex marriages are facing losing their tax exemption status from the government and they DISAGREED with this saying it was wrong to punish the church! (I thought church and state were separated so how can the government make such an imposition?  Wait, I don’t even agree that churches should have tax exemption and should be paying taxes EQUALLY as the rest of the nation.  Don’t get me started).  Finally, they said that the REAL reason that people don’t want same sex marriage is that it will affect a host of things like social security, health care, family leave, you name it.  They couldn’t be more oblivious and I hope I made myself clear with them. 

The main reason people oppose same sex marriage is religious based.  Maybe the use of the term marriage is religious based, but what other word is there?  Millions have gotten married and not all were performed in churches or religious institutions.  So, what do you call those marriages?  If it’s a term you are bitching about, find another word that everyone will accept and let’s move on.  Yes, we’ve heard of civil unions, but when asked, what do you say?  I am civilly union-ed with so and so?  Is that even correct?  The fact is, the word marriage is used in a general sense. 

In California, the ban on same-sex marriage was lifted and deemed discriminatory.  Yay for the gays!  Bad for the straights.  But why?  Tell me what the problem is?  I have YET to come across an acceptable position besides the “it’s wrong” or “the bible says so” or “it’s disgusting.”  NEWSFLASH:  Not everyone follows the bible, it is NOT the only book in town, don’t be so ignorant of other religions that exist in our country, and who gave you the right to JUDGE?  That’s right, WHO gave you the right to pass judgment on people YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW!  A whole helluva nerve you all have!

So you don’t like same-sex marriage… and you can’t really articulate why in any intelligent fashion except to lean on your religion.  But what will you gain if gays can’t marry?  What is it that you are losing if gays marry?   No one has given me an answer to this.  Because no one can find a reason that doesn’t sound discriminatory!  So you want to take something away from me, but you get nothing out of it? 

If anyone caught the show “30 Days” where this very religious lady who was against gay couples adopting children stayed with a gay couple who had adopted 2 or 3 kids, this show would be a good example of this.  She was absolutely against gays adopting.  She admitted she liked this gay couple and admitted that they not only provided a loving, safe and secure home, but that they were doing a great job raising these kids, but she still did not believe in gay adoption!  So she was asked why she should be allowed to vote on something that would cause this couple to lose their children, asked what she was gaining by doing this… and she had no answer. 

A few days later, I spent some time with different friends.  Friends who not only supported me and my wife through this legal battle, but vowed to vote against this measure that would amend the California constitution to define marriage as being between a man and a woman.  I asked them why.  They said because it had no bearing on their life, there should be no inequality in this day and age, and besides, they loved us.  I know some people who think they are my friends and say they respect me and wife and love us dearly as friends, BUT do not agree with gay marriage.  How can someone expect to be someone’s friend who does not agree that they should be equal?  NEWSFLASH:  You are not my friends and shame on you for thinking you can have it all. 

Sometimes it’s a tad embarrassing how the U.S. touts our freedoms and equality around the world, yet we are here today discussing the rights of human beings to enjoy equal opportunities.  I can only imagine what it was like when black people or women could not vote.  Or what about interracial marriage?  WOW, what a controversy THAT was.  We got over that, so why not this? 

WHAT DOES IT MATTER TO YOU?   And why do YOU think you should have a say in equality for U.S. citizens?

Mitt Romney’s $45 million “gift”

Wow – so you loan yourself $45 million for your presidential campaign, lose the nomination, and then file to call the self loan a “contribution.”  I didn’t even know that was legal.  Unfair competition?   Wasn’t it Ross Perot who also self-loaned his campaign over $60 million? 

Great timing for Romney since he’s jockeying for the big VEEP tap on the McCain ticket.  How ironic since McCain was behind campaign finance reform.   Now McCain seems to be overlooking that and praising Mitt for his support.  Perhaps McCain sees dollar signs for himself and an opportunity.  Of course he does!  Mitt Romney had some high approval ratings there for a while – even if it was the entire Mormon population.  Plus he’s a whole lot younger, not to mention more handsome, than McCain.  He needs some fresh meat closer to Obama’s age.  And what about the charm factor?  McCain is about as charming as sand in your panties.  Maybe it is worth the $45 million.

It all comes down to getting elected and what it’s going to take.  The true colors will be revealed as we move toward the general election.  Obama is touring overseas to exercise his foreign policy chops.  Iraq leader Nouri Maliki recently said he supported Obama’s timeline for withdrawing U.S. troops from Iraq – 16 months.  Obama quickly took advantage and put out a statement to this effect.  Maliki followed by saying this was not necessarily an endorsement for the presidential candidate, that it was Americans’ business who was chosen as president.  Ha, I think that’s funny.  Obama’s lack of foreign policy experience has got him running around looking for ways to gain approval.   Have you seen the pictures?   Obama is over there kissing the troops asses all while looking like a deer in headlights.  He doesn’t know what the fuck he is doing and it’s funny!  I wish I could find the picture of him with the troops.  One is talking to Obama one-on-one but Obama seems to be looking over his shoulder – guess the soldier was boring him?  Sure looked like it!

Obama is grabbing at straws and will be bitten in the butt by this, just wait and see.   This is not the student council Barry.